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"Hello Sir Tonny,

"...I come to you for help but not for me...but for a good friend of mine.

"My friend is currently in the Seminary pursuing a Master's degree in Theology and will be ordained a Deacon next year and probably a year after that he will become a Roman Catholic Priest.

"However, the biggest challenge here is as he has confessed to me 'LUST'. He wants so bad to be a priest but he accepts that he is sooo lustful.. he says he admires (sexually) every beautiful girl he sees. I have discussed options of leaving the seminary but he says he cannot handle marriage either coz he doesn't want the responsibilities that come with it..he so much loves the company of female youths and he believes that it makes him happy talking to them and complementing them about their beauty and how they respond to that. (which to me is more flirting..)

"Is there a way you can help/advise here?

"Thank you.

"________"

My reply:

Hello _______!

You need to explain to your friend that what he is experiencing is absolutely normal. Being in a seminary and working one's way to be a priest is no different, gender and sexuality wise, from being a bachelor in graduate school working his way to a non-religious career.  Sometimes men will feel that they are more lustful than others--it is not a question of trying to be less lustful, it is a question of being able to effectively use the right defense mechanisms: in this case repression, suppression, displacement, and sublimation.

He needs a safety valve in the form of some kind of preoccupation or hobby he can attend to while resting from his studies.

I have always believed that when men lust, it is out of a deep urge to create rather than to hurt, dominate, control, or destroy. That is why they sometimes end up as artists.